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jedi_knerds, here is a recent life-lesson I have learned from my son.
My son has really been taken with the idea of Anakin and Obi-Wan being brothers. He understands that this is something that was just declared, and not an accident of birth. A bond of love between two men. Brothers.
He has often said that he wants us to be brothers. I see this as a close bond between men, and not him not wanting to be my son. To him being Brothers has the most potent emotional and life connection there can be.
At first I wanted to correct him about we being Father and Son, and not Brothers, and how that was better, but it turns out that I was wrong, and my five-year-old was right.
In Episode II, Anakin says that Obi-Wan was like a father to him, and by Episode III, they have become brothers. I think this is a natural and good progression for a Son to take to his Father.
It seems to me that in the end, Luke and Anakin became brothers for one brief moment before death -- still Father and Son, but also something more -- the brotherhood of man, the brotherhood of Jedi.
The story of Vader and Luke parallels much of my own story with my own father.
For most of my life, my Father was absent. He was also a warrior, a U.S. Marine, not a Jedi, and he fought in Vietnam, not the Clone Wars. This changed my father before I ever knew him. He had his own demons to fight, and for a while he "fell", and was absent for most of my life.
Before I turned 30, I felt the need to reconnect to my father who I had seen little over the previous 20 years, and had no contact for the last 12 of those. I tracked him down and called him, only to learn that he had recently had a major heart attack and was dying. I eventually was able to move him out to live (and die) with me. We had only a brief moment together measured in 10 months as oppossed to the 10 minutes that Luke had with his Dad. In that time, I feel like I had redeemed my father, and brough him back to the light -- just in time. I didn't have as much time as I wanted, but I had the time that we needed. I redeemed my father just in time to lose him, and I would not change a thing.
I realized with my Son's assertion of brotherhood, that in those 10 months, with me as an adult, and my father sick, our relationship was as much that as Brothers as that of Father and Son. I realize now, that this is the natural progression of things, that a good son will grow to become a brother to his father.
My son is quite early at 5, but I love to call him "brother".
ladyshanae in jedi_knerds, here is a recent life-lesson I have learned from my son.My son has really been taken with the idea of Anakin and Obi-Wan being brothers. He understands that this is something that was just declared, and not an accident of birth. A bond of love between two men. Brothers.
He has often said that he wants us to be brothers. I see this as a close bond between men, and not him not wanting to be my son. To him being Brothers has the most potent emotional and life connection there can be.
At first I wanted to correct him about we being Father and Son, and not Brothers, and how that was better, but it turns out that I was wrong, and my five-year-old was right.
In Episode II, Anakin says that Obi-Wan was like a father to him, and by Episode III, they have become brothers. I think this is a natural and good progression for a Son to take to his Father.
It seems to me that in the end, Luke and Anakin became brothers for one brief moment before death -- still Father and Son, but also something more -- the brotherhood of man, the brotherhood of Jedi.
The story of Vader and Luke parallels much of my own story with my own father.
For most of my life, my Father was absent. He was also a warrior, a U.S. Marine, not a Jedi, and he fought in Vietnam, not the Clone Wars. This changed my father before I ever knew him. He had his own demons to fight, and for a while he "fell", and was absent for most of my life.
Before I turned 30, I felt the need to reconnect to my father who I had seen little over the previous 20 years, and had no contact for the last 12 of those. I tracked him down and called him, only to learn that he had recently had a major heart attack and was dying. I eventually was able to move him out to live (and die) with me. We had only a brief moment together measured in 10 months as oppossed to the 10 minutes that Luke had with his Dad. In that time, I feel like I had redeemed my father, and brough him back to the light -- just in time. I didn't have as much time as I wanted, but I had the time that we needed. I redeemed my father just in time to lose him, and I would not change a thing.
I realized with my Son's assertion of brotherhood, that in those 10 months, with me as an adult, and my father sick, our relationship was as much that as Brothers as that of Father and Son. I realize now, that this is the natural progression of things, that a good son will grow to become a brother to his father.
My son is quite early at 5, but I love to call him "brother".
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