Good Reading and other things

[zenmondo]

I started reading American Gods by Neil Gaiman today. I am enjoying it a great deal. I keep finding myself however stopping and thinking, "Gosh $friend would really like this". Are you one of them? If you are reading this, then maybe.

Seriously check it out and lets talk about it.

So I noticed today that buffalogal on some profile somewhere lists herself as "single" so I decided to do the same on my user profiles on a couple sites. Updated my OKCupid profile today to relfect more my current situation. Basically removing refrences to being a husband, and updating a few things. I struck out such things on my userinfo here. Just struck out in the hopes that I could unstrike it someday. But as time goes on I see that my marriage is unrepairedly broken.

When she first told me it was over I wanted to get counseling, something to work on our relationship and salvage it, but she will not have it.

I still do stuff for her (mostly driving and shopping), and I am quickly growing bitter. I feel used.

She bought plane tickets this past week to fly out and meet someone. She didn't really give me many details, I assume its the guy she spends hours on the phone with, and more hours playing Galaxies with. Its really sunk in that the next person she has sex with won't be me. Ofcourse the next person *I* have sex with won't be her, but it still doesn't feel fair. If a woman wants to get laid, its a certainty that she will. Not so for a guy. My prospects to me seem slim.

I wish I was one of those people that is OK with being alone and celibate, but I am not. Just the way I am wired. I'm a very sexual creature who hasn't been laid in months. And she wonders why I am in a bad mood all the time.

Shit this was suppossed to be about how much I was enjoying reading American Gods. I do go on. Needed to get it off my chest. Livejournal is cheap therapy, and its just about all I got.

Comments

[ivy]

I really liked American Gods too. [grin] I love how the portrayls are recognizable and yet modernized; Gaiman has a really good eye for that sort of thing.

If a woman wants to get laid, its a certainty that she will. Not so for a guy. My prospects to me seem slim.

I've heard this argument from a lot of my male friends. The balancing factor is that relatively few women just want to get laid. I've had long periods of celibacy in my life because I couldn't have the person that I had my heart set on. (The whole time that ravenblack and I were courting, he lived in the UK and I lived in the US. Not many booty calls there.) Sure, I could go have sex with some random guy if I wanted, but that's a very unappealing prospect to most women. I would *way* rather be celibate than that; sex with someone that's not emotionally important to me is tremendously unappealing. For women that feel like I do, the statement basically translates to "you can have this thing that you totally don't want any time you want it". Y'all are totally welcome to all the random guys that want to have sex with me! You can have every single one; I won't feel the loss! [grin]

[minteckers.livejournal.com]

I really care for both of you, but damn. If I was in that situation I wouldn't be driving anyone anywhere.

:hugs:

[moonfire77.livejournal.com]

That's what I was thinking. Given the way she seems to have decided (without asking you) that things are going to go, I'm not sure why you still feel any sense of responsibility toward her. It seems to me that if you feel bitter, it's not particularly her fault more than yours; if she's using you, it's because you're allowing yourself to be used.

[hheather.livejournal.com]

I just finished reading/listening to American Gods abotu a half hour ago. It's just completely awesome.

[fenix-harbinger.livejournal.com]

Zenny, you are complicit in your feelings of being used, honey.

You are under no obligation to drive anyone anywhere. To shop for them. To live with them. If the relationship is over, you get to choose your own path and destiny. So long as you continue to acquiesce to the status quo, you are agreeing to the way things are.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm so sorry with your current situation.

We think once you enter the single scene again, you will meet someone or just have fun playing the field.