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Moved and ...
So my friend Adam said he couldn't help me move on Tuesday as planned, so it got moved ahead to Monday, yesterday. I am moved. The place is nice. Once all the boxes are put away (not that many to tell the truth) I'll take pictures and post.
We got the moving truck loaded just about when Conor was due to get home from school, so we waited a few minutes for him, and asked if he wanted to come and see the new house.
So he rode with me in the moving truck to the new place. I dunno what his opinion is actually. He cried at one point, but he said it was cuz there was nothing here to play. He was pretty bored. Well I have his computer set up here, hopefully I will have internet for him by the time he gets here after school. Oh crap, just remembered I don't have any ketchup for him. Gotta go out and buy that.
I swear this move is nickel and diming me to death with all the little things I need to buy for this place. About the biggest purchase I made was my lamp, somewhere in the neighborhood of $40. I haven't thrown away the box yet, cuz Conor loves to play in boxes, and want to give him a chance. He wanted to play in my moving boxes, and was kind of sad that he couldn't.
In other news, JoLynn filed for divorce yesterday. So now I guess I wait to be served.
I found my wedding ring last night as I was getting ready for bed. I don't know what I want to do with it. Part of me wants to hang it by the door as a reminder of I don't know what.. what I left I guess. Part of me wants to just hide it away. I've hidden away my Mickey Mouse watch from her, with the engraving "happily ever after". I haven't had the heart to wear it months. But its a cool watch. I'll probably wear it again -- someday.
We got the moving truck loaded just about when Conor was due to get home from school, so we waited a few minutes for him, and asked if he wanted to come and see the new house.
So he rode with me in the moving truck to the new place. I dunno what his opinion is actually. He cried at one point, but he said it was cuz there was nothing here to play. He was pretty bored. Well I have his computer set up here, hopefully I will have internet for him by the time he gets here after school. Oh crap, just remembered I don't have any ketchup for him. Gotta go out and buy that.
I swear this move is nickel and diming me to death with all the little things I need to buy for this place. About the biggest purchase I made was my lamp, somewhere in the neighborhood of $40. I haven't thrown away the box yet, cuz Conor loves to play in boxes, and want to give him a chance. He wanted to play in my moving boxes, and was kind of sad that he couldn't.
In other news, JoLynn filed for divorce yesterday. So now I guess I wait to be served.
I found my wedding ring last night as I was getting ready for bed. I don't know what I want to do with it. Part of me wants to hang it by the door as a reminder of I don't know what.. what I left I guess. Part of me wants to just hide it away. I've hidden away my Mickey Mouse watch from her, with the engraving "happily ever after". I haven't had the heart to wear it months. But its a cool watch. I'll probably wear it again -- someday.
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Have you consulted a lawyer yet? (yes I will harp on this. Why? Because it's bloody important.)
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There is life after divorce. (hugs)
Oooh snail mail address! Ke ke ke.
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As for your ring, have it made into something for your son. I am saving my husbands and my wedding rings so we can use it to make something else from them for the kids.
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In other news, JoLynn filed for divorce yesterday. So now I guess I wait to be served.
I swear, darling I am tempted to drive to Wyoming and kick your butt. You do NOT wait to be served. You get a lawyer to help you handle the complaint. While yes, one has to be the server and one has to be the respondant in a divorce, there is no reason to be passive about it. You have done nothing wrong. You aren't a bad person. Getting a lawyer is not being confrontational.
If done correctly, a lawyer protects your rights and both lawyers protect Connor's rights. Please, please, please do not just let this happen to you. I did when I left Sean and I am still paying for it, 10 years later. This does not go away if you ignore it, it will affect you until your son is at least 18 or 21 (depending)
I found my wedding ring last night. In the divorce papers, we kept my engagement ring for Pumpkin. The gold band that I got in my second marriage wasn't worth turning into something else, so I used it in a ritual to help me separate and deal with my feelings. I think both paths have merit.
I do love you, dear. I know how hard it was for me, so I don't mean to be too hard on you. I just also know that my place in your life isn't for flowers and kind words, but to kick you butt when needed.
HUGS
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I just wanted to give an "AMEN SISTER." :)
During a divorce/separation is the *worst* time to be passive. You cannot be passive, especially when there are children involved. You do not roll over and present your soft bits to the one taking the action.
You also do not have to be aggressive. But you *do* have to be active.
And if you are passive, and you get steamrolled, IMNSHO you do not have recourse to complain and whine about how unfair it is/was and how much it sucks. If you at least attempt to look out for yourself, it's better than being a doormat.
IIRC I do believe you can also counterfile. You do not have to sit back and wait. You can, and should, take action to protect yourself and your relationship with your son.
I'm not trying to be mean. I'm trying to get you(Zen) to quit wallowing and do something. And it's because I care.
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