I'm so sorry I didn't reply sooner, since I am the one that asked the question. It's been on my mind and I've been meaning to say *hugs* to you, but have been a bit preoccupied with my stalker. In any case, mea culpa, and *hugs*.
I think you and JoLynn are both very nifty people, and so it really saddens me that things have come to this--I was really hoping you guys might be able to get couples counseling. I'm so sorry. *hughughug* to both of you--I can only imagine how much pain both of you must be in right now.
On a more practical note, is there no paratransit in your area? I ask because this is something I recently set up for myself (I'm blind too) precisely so my spouse wouldn't have to keep ferrying me around. Honestly I think it's the right thing for both of us, since I don't want to feel dependent on Trysha and I don't want Trysha to feel like I'm only with her because she takes care of me. It seems like indepentent living skills are very important when you're disabled and married, and part of that is getting state services set up. Then again, it's entirely possible that your area is so rural paratransit simply doesn't exist.
I know that this is probably the last thing you want to hear, but so many times, reading your journals, I've been so struck how both of your lives could improve with a change of location. If you were living in an area with better public transportation, JoLynn wouldn't be dependent on you for rides. Also, in many more "blue" states (MA is one of them), there is free health-care provided by the state for low-income people. A lot of my friends are on this program in MA, and it seems to work out really well for them. I know it's a terrible thing to ask, and probably the last thing you want to think about now, but have you ever considered relocating to somewhere with better public transportation and better health insurance?
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I think you and JoLynn are both very nifty people, and so it really saddens me that things have come to this--I was really hoping you guys might be able to get couples counseling. I'm so sorry. *hughughug* to both of you--I can only imagine how much pain both of you must be in right now.
On a more practical note, is there no paratransit in your area? I ask because this is something I recently set up for myself (I'm blind too) precisely so my spouse wouldn't have to keep ferrying me around. Honestly I think it's the right thing for both of us, since I don't want to feel dependent on Trysha and I don't want Trysha to feel like I'm only with her because she takes care of me. It seems like indepentent living skills are very important when you're disabled and married, and part of that is getting state services set up. Then again, it's entirely possible that your area is so rural paratransit simply doesn't exist.
I know that this is probably the last thing you want to hear, but so many times, reading your journals, I've been so struck how both of your lives could improve with a change of location. If you were living in an area with better public transportation, JoLynn wouldn't be dependent on you for rides. Also, in many more "blue" states (MA is one of them), there is free health-care provided by the state for low-income people. A lot of my friends are on this program in MA, and it seems to work out really well for them. I know it's a terrible thing to ask, and probably the last thing you want to think about now, but have you ever considered relocating to somewhere with better public transportation and better health insurance?